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A letter to Melinda Gates

Dear Melinda,

If you are in front of me, I would give you a big hug if you let me.

No, you don't know me and I only know you through news and your book - A Moment of Lift.  Thank you for all you have done and share your experience with us.

I am saddened by the news that you are divorcing.  My immediate reaction to my friend was, "if two smart people can't figure it out, what hope do we have?"

Now several days have passed.  Unlike other news, your divorce is lingering in my mind.  Today, I would like to say to you, "Thank you again, Melinda, for having the courage and do what you believe is the right thing to do even though it is incredibly tough".

It's not about money.  It's about equality.  It's not about compromising.  It's about standing up for yourself.  What you did gave me hope and courage.  If we are to be equal to man, we start from our own house.

Your children are lucky to have such a thoughtful mom.  Happy Mother's Day!

Sincerely,

Valerie

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Location: Kirkland, WA, USA

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